What Can Relationship Therapy/ Couple Counselling Offer You?
When our relationships start to struggle it can be hard for any of us, within the relationship, to feel heard, seen, understood or even loved. Circumstances might get so bad that we become de-motivated to carry on attempting to get through to each other and, when this happens, we may consider ending the relationship.
I can offer you objective support for what you are going through. Our work together can lead to:
Better Communicating: Discover a more effective way to share how you are feeling in order to feel heard, seen and understood.
Better Listening: Develop an increased ability to hear what the other is sharing in order for them to feel heard, seen and understood.
Conflict Resolution: Increased ability to effectively share your feelings of hurt/ anger (as well as other feelings) therefore more likely to lead to resolving your conflict with the other. Paired with increased ability to hear the feelings of hurt/ anger of the other therefore, again,more likely to lead to resolving your conflict with the other.
Clarity On What Happens Next For Your Relationship: Feel more confident in your ability to know what you want for yourselves and your relationship.
‘…humans desire a certain someone who will look out for them, notice and value them, soothe their wounds, reassure them in life’s difficult places’ (Sue Johnson, 2019).
What Challenges Can Be Explored in Relationship Therapy/ Couple Counselling?
My training and practice has equipped me to support people in relationships through relationship experiences such as:
Breakdown of trust.
Communication breakdown.
Loss of hope for the relationship.
Betrayals of all kinds.
Feelings of the relationship being stuck.
Feelings of never being able to get it right for the other.
Feelings of not being able to reach the other.
Lack of intimacy of all kinds (physical, emotional, mental, sexual).
Your experiences in your relationship may not fit neatly into any of the headings above. Please do not hesitate to get in touch and share what is happening for you and your relationship.
How Does Couple Counselling/ Relationship Therapy Work?
I offer Couple Counselling/ Relationship Therapy utilising Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples/ relationships.
EFT is an empirically-supported humanistic therapy that views emotions as centrally important in human functioning and therapeutic change.
EFT helps by delving into the intricate dynamics within relationships.
We begin by pinpointing any communication patterns that are getting in the way of your relationship. We also aim to understand any underlying emotions and needs fuelling these patterns.
Alongside identifying your communication patterns, my aim is to provide you with an environment where you feel secure to express your emotions with the aim of fostering a deeper understanding and empathy between yourselves.
With understanding and empathy comes the possibility of you finding new ways of relating, problem-solving together, and supporting each other within the relationship.
This way of working can provide you with methods of communicating to sustain positive changes beyond the therapy sessions thereby fostering ongoing emotional connection and attunement between yourselves.
Studies indicate that with EFT it is possible to enhance overall relationship satisfaction. Furthermore EFT can also contribute to improved individual well-being for those involved in the therapeutic process.